Is Counseling for Me?
Guys, Does This Sound Like You?
It’s been a long time since you faced an unsolvable situation. You’ve usually been able to use logic, reason, and experience to figure most things out. It’s probably been quite awhile since you didn’t know what you were doing.
I know lots of men like you. You’re a leader, organized, a strategist with a ton of responsibility, well-respected. You run your department, your company, your operating room, your sales team. You’re crushing it at work. But when you walk in your front door it’s like you’re in a strange country without a map or compass.
I bet, if you’re totally honest with yourself, this is all causing you to doubt yourself. When was the last time you didn’t know how to fix something? What’s wrong with you that you can’t make your partner happy, or be happy with them? It seems like other people have this ‘relationship-stuff’ figured out…why the hell can’t you?
You may be feeling so lost, for the first time in…well…you can’t remember when you felt this unsure of what to do, where to go, who to talk to. It’s unnerving, and it’s easier just to pretend it isn’t there, bury yourself in work, or parenting, or your golf game, and cross your fingers it’ll get better on its own.
But…deep down inside, you know it won’t.
So, who do you talk to about all of this, when our society tells men it’s not OK to ask for help?
I’ve worked with hundreds of Cincinnati guys over the years on issues like these, and they all have come away feeling heard, understood and better able to navigate their lives and relationships. I know what works for men in therapy, and it is so different than what works for women.
You’re a good man, with a good heart, but you may be feeling:
- Like giving up and accepting that this is all there is.
- As if nothing you do is the right thing, or good enough, or just plain “enough”.
- As if the target is always moving, and expectations are always changing.
- That you just don’t care anymore.